Attraction

Every friendship/relationship started with this - attraction.

Part or the entirety of the person can make you feel attracted, but no, it isn't love.

There's no such thing as 'love at first sight'. Loving the exterior of the person in a second is purely lust. But it definitely can turn to love should you cross the barrier, make contact and initiate friendship.

And ladies, you can initiate. According to a religious speaker at my friend's church, a woman can initiate with the assurance that she's sure her motive is as pure as she should be.

Otherwise, the whole story about Eve offering the deadly apple to Adam will repeat itself in your own life. Thus making both man and woman incur a cursed relationship.

Anyway, back to attraction.

It's that emotion we feel when we see that person, a crush, someone we admire.

Attraction is important, and it can be a one sided affair but of course, the next step to friendship will actually give you enough time to win over your crush into gaining a mutual attraction.

If the attraction is already mutual instantly, don't rush into anything physical. Yes, lust can become an issue even at the point of attraction.

If you want the attraction to last, build it from the foundation of friendship.

Give yourself a period of three to six months to gauge how you feel because what you feel now may differ when you give some time more getting to know your crush.

It might change drastically - from like to dislike, or it'll just make you more convinced that you can see your crush as someone you want to establish a deeper friendship with.

Note to self: Always remember that friendship is the strongest foundation relationships should have.

Next post: Roles of man/woman in relationships.






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